AlanHo Posted October 11, 2004 Report Share Posted October 11, 2004 My wife died this morning aged 63 after a long battle with lung cancer.Like most people our age - she was exposed to smoke as a child because her parents smoked, she then went to work on a smoky bus to work in a smoky office, evening entertainment was usually at a dance, cinema, club, bar etc sharing other peoples smoke and she herself smoked from the age of 26 (5 to 10 a day) until aged 41 when we both gave it up completely 22 years ago.Over the last month she has been under the care of the Macmillan cancer care nurses and in her final days she was admitted to a local Marie Curie hospice. I have nothing but immense admiration for both organisations which provided the most tender and loving care for her to ensure she was comfortable and pain free.The Macmillan and Marie Curie organisations both depend heavily on donations. Please give them your consideration - you never know when any of us might appreciate their existence.One last thought - and this is my thought for today - those of you who currently smoke should stop smoking immediately. If you ever saw how much people suffer when dying of lung cancer you would appreciate why I say this. You know it makes sense.Alan. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bvw Posted October 11, 2004 Report Share Posted October 11, 2004 I'm so sorry Alan.Take care my friend. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
christmascracker Posted October 11, 2004 Report Share Posted October 11, 2004 I'm so sorry Alan, my thoughts are with you on this sad day Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mark2 Posted October 11, 2004 Report Share Posted October 11, 2004 Very sad news.Take care Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
andsome Posted October 11, 2004 Report Share Posted October 11, 2004 Thank you for sharing this with us Alan, it will probably help having done so. I extend my deepest sympathies to you and all your family. I too wish that people would not smoke, my mother also died with smoke induced lung cancer. It upsets me greatly that so many young people take up this disgusting habit, partly due to peer pressure. I smoked during the years when we knew little or nothing about smoking related disease. there were adverts like, 'Craven A soothes the throat', and 'You're never alone with a Strand', thank goodness these have all been banned.Never mind the so called freedom of the smoker, if people want to inflict this terrible disease upon themselves, then so be it, but others should not be forced to inhale their smoke. It should be banned from all public places.Keep your chin up old friend, and I hope that your God is with you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
artist Posted October 11, 2004 Report Share Posted October 11, 2004 So sorry to hear that Alan. We are thinking of you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ranger Posted October 11, 2004 Report Share Posted October 11, 2004 My condolences Alan, I would also like to agree with you on the care of the Marie Curie hospices, my young cousin died with cancer a couple of year ago at the age of just 35 leaving behind two teenage kids, a very sad time, but everyone agreed the staff of the Marie Curie hospice were fantastic and as you said they do everything they can to ensure that the patient is as comfortable and pain free as can be. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
doug Posted October 11, 2004 Report Share Posted October 11, 2004 Oh, so sad. Thoughts are with you. We are all here if you want a shoulder Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hurdy Posted October 11, 2004 Report Share Posted October 11, 2004 Sorry to hear your tragic news. My most sincere condolences. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
djohn Posted October 11, 2004 Report Share Posted October 11, 2004 I am so sorry to hear this news Alan. I have known for some time of your wifes ill health and your devotion to her. It always gave me personal strength to watch how you coped with this and still managed to retain a terrific sense of humour.I hope this inner strength will help to ease your burden over the coming months. The pain you feel now will never go away but it will ease with time, you have many friends here in the forum even though you have not met us personally. If ever you need to talk please don't hesitate to contact me.My deepest sympathy to you Alan, you are in my thoughts and prayers. Take care my friend.John. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sparks Posted October 11, 2004 Report Share Posted October 11, 2004 Our thoughts are with you on this very sad occasion Alan, i'm sure you will find the strength to carry you through and time will ease your heartache. I myself was diagnosed with cancer five years ago but it's now thankfully in remission. Your advice on smoking is sound but it's hard to get it across to the young ones,(my daughter included) as most of them think they can deal with it when the time comes and of course then it's too late. Take care of yourself mate. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
expertec Posted October 11, 2004 Report Share Posted October 11, 2004 :( Very sad news. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sir T Fireball Posted October 11, 2004 Report Share Posted October 11, 2004 I haven't had the chance to interact with you much Alan, but nevertheless, would like to offer my sincerest condolences. I lost my father to cancer and am able to understand the pain you must be feeling right now. I pray that your family and friends are able to offer you all the strength and support you will undoubtedly need and that your memories of better days stay strong and clear.Andy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Redhat Posted October 11, 2004 Report Share Posted October 11, 2004 As with the others, my deepest condolences to you and your family :( Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
trackrat Posted October 11, 2004 Report Share Posted October 11, 2004 As with the others, my deepest condolences to you and your family :( Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Besty Posted October 11, 2004 Report Share Posted October 11, 2004 My most sincer and deep condolences alan. I am very sorry for your loss mate Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
-pops- Posted October 11, 2004 Report Share Posted October 11, 2004 Oh, Alan, I'm so sad for you.You can be reasurred that everyone here has the deepest sympathy for you at this time.Take comfort that your wife is now in a better place, at rest and in peace.My very best wishes to you and all your family.Very sincerelyJohn Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Scarecrow Man Posted October 11, 2004 Report Share Posted October 11, 2004 This is terrible news, Alan. I myself have also lost an aunt to lung cancer. Terrible thing smoking is, and I do it too. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tony Posted October 11, 2004 Report Share Posted October 11, 2004 Alan i am so sorry to hear this, my heart felt sympathies to you and all your family.Tony Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Blink_182_fan Posted October 11, 2004 Report Share Posted October 11, 2004 Im So sorry to hear that alan Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
r4may Posted October 11, 2004 Report Share Posted October 11, 2004 As with the all the other members, my deepest condolences to you and your family. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cd108 Posted October 11, 2004 Report Share Posted October 11, 2004 Im sorry to hear that Alan, my best wishes to you and yours. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Damo Posted October 11, 2004 Report Share Posted October 11, 2004 As with the all the other members, my deepest condolences to you and your family.Same from me aswell, my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.Take careDamian Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nellie2 Posted October 11, 2004 Report Share Posted October 11, 2004 My thoughts are with you now Alan, as they have been. I'm sorry for your loss. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gandalph Posted October 11, 2004 Report Share Posted October 11, 2004 I am very sorry to read of your loss Alan. My family and I send our condolences and please be assured we are thinking of you and your family in your time of need! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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